Here’s one from my late father- The number of true friends you gather in life and can count on you can count on one hand. Be one of those people for others
Except for not caring if I’m called “doctor” since I have no claim to that, I’m pleased that little old me fulfills all the other criteria. I guess I’m sharp of mind as well as of tongue!
Those ten things you’ve learned from your friends are too good to be true and you got lucky and does not apply to some of us, probably many, who formerly had friends in academia and elsewhere. Academia is primarily politically democrat and the Democrat party is now a discredited and corrupt political operation for likely most of the nation.
I knew people for 30 years and in the end I did not know them. There must be an old adage that says you do not know someone until a time of crisis or of great pivotal importance.
I've had professional class work and blue collar manual labor work. The clerical working class work was not much different in task than my clerical professional class work.
Your observation of "I knew people for 30 years and in the end I did not know them" comports with my experience of the professional class work (generally administrative and supervisorial which were also longer stretches, in once case 11 years of Executive Office regulatory complaint case work for a corporate capturing financial services too big to fail or jail publicly traded vertically integrated household name).
It seems counterintuitive that the 11 year stretch and better formed more stable and intimate friendships faded faster than did some shorter term work. Each of my changes of employer were without cause, either on my part or the employer's part. The corporate world as I've learned from experience has no monopoly on "gaslighting" of employees and work premises. To define that term, as my usage has been questioned by some friends seeking to settle on one fixed usage of the term as a verb or adverb I'd say it falls within this Wikipedia page range of usage:
Ever notice the evolving nature of the 'I know a guy' thing?
When you're young you know nothing about household maintenance and repair- you're forced to rely on the knowledge and generosity of others (before YouTube:)) when it comes to plumbing, maintenance, etc.
By the time you're in your thirties, you know a bit. You probably know a guy for most things. Stupidly, you haven't yet learned that it's wise to mostly keep your short list of professional tradesmen to yourself, or a small circle of people you really trust. You might assume that your colleague or acquaintance is a good person in all respects, but the truth is they might have been raised wrong- and commit a variety of offences ranging from neglecting to offer a cup of coffee, insisting upon buying their own (inferior) materials for a job, failing to account for a trade professionals time travelling to pick up needed items when there is an insistence a job is urgent, or, worst of all, prone to withholding payment as a post hoc negotiating tactic after a price has previously been agreed.
By the time you're in your fifties you've been burned and have the beginnings of wisdom. You've experienced one of your favourite workmen dodging your calls after you've made a referral to a friend who turned out to have no idea of how to treat a working man with respect. You fully realise that a lot of the acquaintances and colleagues you assume are good people, are only good to you or people like you.
Snob comes from the Latin sine nobilitate. It means without nobility.
Context is everything. Someone tells me candidate B is corrupt and since candidate A has not been mentioned I ask source's assessment of candidate A.
Yet few if any journalists proceed to that comparative follow-up question and boom there's another online hit over Candidate B being assessed by source who gets to skate on recording assessment of candidate A.
What is reader to make of this? In this case, assess the competing candidate, the unidentified or even referenced Republican (its easy in our Duopoly. There may be other candidates running, journalists only have to nod to Duopoly rival).
That is how 3rd Party candidates never get to come in from the Cold War against widening U.S. body politic's self policed 2-party Reservation. Nobody on the Accredited Media Reservation (Indie muck rakers need not apply) will be impolitic and reference Cornel West or Jill Stein's views.
Often referred to as the U.S.'s most respected Public Figure, Ralph Nader may have given up running, but bless him, keeps the full fields in view. Amy Goodman if not Juan González likewise keeps trying to expand constricting non-profit journalism's air time and peripheral vision.
And they are not morons as Feynman describes them.
“Never confuse education with intelligence, you can have a PhD and still be an idiot.”
― Richard P. Feynman
Here’s one from my late father- The number of true friends you gather in life and can count on you can count on one hand. Be one of those people for others
1. They’re not afraid to say, “I don’t understand” and “I don’t know”.
So true.
I'm guessing they say the same about you, Peter.
That’s kind of you to say.
Except for not caring if I’m called “doctor” since I have no claim to that, I’m pleased that little old me fulfills all the other criteria. I guess I’m sharp of mind as well as of tongue!
Rare birds…..almost extinct.
Very well put! An excellent summary of real intelligence in action!
Thanks
Those ten things you’ve learned from your friends are too good to be true and you got lucky and does not apply to some of us, probably many, who formerly had friends in academia and elsewhere. Academia is primarily politically democrat and the Democrat party is now a discredited and corrupt political operation for likely most of the nation.
Yeah. There’s a lot there. An awful lot…
I knew people for 30 years and in the end I did not know them. There must be an old adage that says you do not know someone until a time of crisis or of great pivotal importance.
I've had professional class work and blue collar manual labor work. The clerical working class work was not much different in task than my clerical professional class work.
Your observation of "I knew people for 30 years and in the end I did not know them" comports with my experience of the professional class work (generally administrative and supervisorial which were also longer stretches, in once case 11 years of Executive Office regulatory complaint case work for a corporate capturing financial services too big to fail or jail publicly traded vertically integrated household name).
It seems counterintuitive that the 11 year stretch and better formed more stable and intimate friendships faded faster than did some shorter term work. Each of my changes of employer were without cause, either on my part or the employer's part. The corporate world as I've learned from experience has no monopoly on "gaslighting" of employees and work premises. To define that term, as my usage has been questioned by some friends seeking to settle on one fixed usage of the term as a verb or adverb I'd say it falls within this Wikipedia page range of usage:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
Discuss amongst yourselves and share....
Tio Mitchito
Mitch Ritter\Paradigm Sifters, Code Shifters, PsalmSong Chasers
Lay-Low Studios, Ore-Wa (Refuge of Atonement Seekers)
Media Discussion List\Looksee
Ever notice the evolving nature of the 'I know a guy' thing?
When you're young you know nothing about household maintenance and repair- you're forced to rely on the knowledge and generosity of others (before YouTube:)) when it comes to plumbing, maintenance, etc.
By the time you're in your thirties, you know a bit. You probably know a guy for most things. Stupidly, you haven't yet learned that it's wise to mostly keep your short list of professional tradesmen to yourself, or a small circle of people you really trust. You might assume that your colleague or acquaintance is a good person in all respects, but the truth is they might have been raised wrong- and commit a variety of offences ranging from neglecting to offer a cup of coffee, insisting upon buying their own (inferior) materials for a job, failing to account for a trade professionals time travelling to pick up needed items when there is an insistence a job is urgent, or, worst of all, prone to withholding payment as a post hoc negotiating tactic after a price has previously been agreed.
By the time you're in your fifties you've been burned and have the beginnings of wisdom. You've experienced one of your favourite workmen dodging your calls after you've made a referral to a friend who turned out to have no idea of how to treat a working man with respect. You fully realise that a lot of the acquaintances and colleagues you assume are good people, are only good to you or people like you.
Snob comes from the Latin sine nobilitate. It means without nobility.
Context is everything. Someone tells me candidate B is corrupt and since candidate A has not been mentioned I ask source's assessment of candidate A.
Yet few if any journalists proceed to that comparative follow-up question and boom there's another online hit over Candidate B being assessed by source who gets to skate on recording assessment of candidate A.
What is reader to make of this? In this case, assess the competing candidate, the unidentified or even referenced Republican (its easy in our Duopoly. There may be other candidates running, journalists only have to nod to Duopoly rival).
That is how 3rd Party candidates never get to come in from the Cold War against widening U.S. body politic's self policed 2-party Reservation. Nobody on the Accredited Media Reservation (Indie muck rakers need not apply) will be impolitic and reference Cornel West or Jill Stein's views.
Often referred to as the U.S.'s most respected Public Figure, Ralph Nader may have given up running, but bless him, keeps the full fields in view. Amy Goodman if not Juan González likewise keeps trying to expand constricting non-profit journalism's air time and peripheral vision.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Juan_Gonz%C3%A1lez_(journalist)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cornel_West
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Seldes
Tio Mitchito
Mitch Ritter\Paradigm Sifters, Code Shifters, PsalmSong Chasers
Lay-Low Studios, Ore-Wa (Refuge of Atonement Seekers)
Media Discussion List\Looksee
Absolutely.
I'm only called by my first name,.so one down, nine to go!
You're on your way!
What's not to like in this mirror's reflection (of US presumably)?
Not even an unnamed source footnoted.
Is this a pop quiz for J-School?
Unreliably Yours, da mole at Annenberg, USC....
Tio Mitchito
Mitch Ritter\Paradigm Sifters, Code Shifters, PsalmSong Chasers
Lay-Low Studios, Ore-Wa (Refuge of Atonement Seekers)
Media Discussion List\Looksee